STOP BULLYING !!!
Education
is a bridge connecting the future for the people of Indonesia. In an age of
globalization, education has been easier to be widely disseminated. The world
is no longer in the days where only the nobles who had the opportunity to get
an education. Not familiar old or young, rich or poor, even someone with
special needs, all have the right to get a decent education.
Proper education, that's what people
expect from a means of learning. Education provided equitably to all students
regardless of background. In the explanation of the General Law of the Republic
of Indonesia No. 20 of 2003 on the National Education System (Law No. 20/2003),
states: "People need education in life. Education is a business so that
people can develop his or her potential through a learning process and or other
means known to and recognized by the community ".
Develop
their potential through a learning process, students are required to explore
the potential of a well that overflowed his talent as well. But what if there
is a learning process amid internal and external constraints? when students are
reluctant to show his skill because there is no support in itself? it is not
impossible that the result obtained by factors such as; family, community, and
school. A behavior that can destroy the spirit and motivation of students who
are currently in the midst of the community warm Iyalah bullying.
Bullying
is a problem that is worldwide, not only in Indonesia but also in developed
countries like the United States and Japan. Acts of bullying in Indonesia
likened to an iceberg phenomenon increasingly worrisome. Evidently, Indonesia
ranks second largest in the world in the case of bullying. Figures are very
amazing in this.
Bullying
is a loan word from English (bully), which means bully or annoy persons
(parties) are weak. Bullying is not only happening in educational institutions
/ schools, but also in the workplace, the community, and even communities. In
this article, I will discuss about bullying at school.
According
to Rigby (2005; in Anesty, 2009) formulates that bullying is a desire to hurt,
which is shown in action, causing a person to suffer. So, according to Intan bullying is a form of violence against children (child abuse) conducted
peer to someone (a child) who is 'low' or weaker to get a certain satisfaction
that his own actions can not be justified. Usually, bullying happens
repeatedly, there is even done systematically.
Bullying
can happen anywhere, but often encountered in the school environment. Bullying
occurs due to an imbalance of power between the perpetrator is more powerful
and the target (victim) weaker. From the side of the offender, the tendency to
do the bullying caused by environmental conditions that shape the personality
of aggressive and less able to control emotions. The environment is meant,
among others, upbringing in the family, the family's own conditions, social
conditions surrounding environment and information media technology available
today.
In
general, boys use more physical bullying and child many women using relational
bullying / emotional, but both use the same verbal bullying. This distinction,
more to do with the patterns of socialization that occurs between boys and
girls. In the opinion of the expert Barbara Coloroso (2006: 47-50) divides
bullying into four types, as follows:
1. Bullying
verbally is one of the most easy to do, because it can be a first step towards
the further violence. Verbal bullying is divided into three, namely:
a. Direct
verbal contact as threatening, humiliating, degrading, disturbing, given name
calling, sarcasm, condescending, mocking, mengintimidsi, and spreading gossip
is not true that aim to marginalize others.
b. Perlaku
direct non-verbal like seeing the cynical, insulting, stuck out his tongue,
showing facial expressions demeaning bullying usually accompanied by physical
and or verbal.
c. Indirect
non-verbal behaviors such as through sms media, the internet and other social
networks, to silence someone, manipulating friendships that become cracked,
deliberately exclude or ignore, and sending anonymous letters.
2. Bullying
physically included this type is beating, slapping, choking, pushing,
destroying the belongings of children who are oppressed, and other physical
actions that are destructive. This kind of bullying is the most visible and
easy to identify. Because evidence of bullying seen immediately.
3. Bullying
is a relational (waiver) was used to isolate or reject a friend or even to
damage the friendly relations. Relational bullying is weakening the victim's
self-esteem through neglect, exclusion, exclusion or avoidance. This is a time
when teenagers try to find themselves and adjust to peers.
4. Electronic
Bullying is a form of bullying behavior that made the culprit through
electronic means such as computers, mobile phones, internet, website, chat
room, e-mail, SMS and so on.
Facts Bullying
The
first fact: Iqbal child student who was sitting bench 4th grade elementary
school in Bojong Menteng. Her mother was an employee of a private company was
already working girl. Iqbal from small already twice alternately raised by his
grandmother and aunt. At the age of 9 new Iqbal feel cared for by his mother,
since the grandmother went to Padang.
On
one day, Iqbal was about to go to school at a time when conditions were rainy,
Iqbal eventually bring her umbrella from home on foot to go to school. Arriving
at the school, Iqbal directly diledekin by his friends with a variety of talks.
Until umbrella Iqbal dimainin until broken by his friends and his umbrella was
not returned. Iqbal had tried to defend himself, in the end he was forced to return
home with a feeling of sadness, and induced her upset.
The
second fact: Reflecting on his own reflection that discusses kaka Amira has a
new sister during which Amira 1 year old. What Amira experienced when her
sister was born? attention to him slowly disappear. Amira lose all of it
without understanding why it clearly and without any prior preparation. When at
the age of three years already had two sisters. Like it or not forced to take
the role as a sister, something quite frustrating.
There
are some psychological reactions that occur by the first child, anxiety goodbye
to his mother so that the presence of the sister makes her uncomfortable, and
scary. Amira worried about losing his mother, the shape can be a strong
possessiveness. Other forms of withdrawal, the child withdraws. Amira shows the
attitude of moody, taciturn or maudlin with sebeb trivial reasons.
Amira
was jealous of her sister, she saw her sister as the cause of the loss of
parental attention and affection. Form of jealousy can be shown openly or not.
Amira children first become easily provoked by trivial things, happens often in
ledekin neighbors and peers. If it's a long cry cessation and kept asking to be
picked up.
Finally,
Amira and her brother often alternately taken care of by an elderly
grandmother. Bullying behavior because of jealous sister continued until
elementary school. Along with the development, growth and learning process
Amira finally no longer a child is possessive and jealous. Instead now the
results are so child introvet, indifferent, and tend not to care instead often
make others jealous.
Causes Bullying Measures
There
are several factors that cause a person to be perpetrators of bullying,
including children who are too spoiled by his parents, broken home which can
cause children to feel excluded, children living environment is not as good as
the environmental effect that frequently fight or not regarding to the existing
norms. This is what makes a person imitating the behavior that is around and
commit violence against another person without feeling guilty.
The
mass media into the causes of bullying. Research conducted by Anderson was
quoted as saying by Rigby, 2002, concluded that violence on television or
movies, and video games becoming concrete evidence to trigger bullying both
within a short time or a long time. The effect will be seen in the form of
bullying behaviors ranging from the mild to the nature that can be casualties.
The Impact Of Bullying
The
impact can be categorized as short-term impact and long-term impact. Short-term
impact they will tend to avoid the school environment or the environment in
which the actors are and the emergence of psychosomatic disorders, so dropout,
Doing sexual activity prematurely, and have poor emotional control. While the
long-term impact can be when they mature personal minder, anti-social and
suspicious towards others, grew into an aggressive person, and easily become
perpetrators of criminal acts in adolescence as well as adults later.
Prevention Of Bullying
Prevention
of bullying on children should involve various stakeholders, among others, the
family, schools, and government. The family has an obligation to educate with
the right parenting, developing emotional intelligence since early childhood.
By teaching children to possess a sense of empathy, and respect for others.
Parents must play their role by creating good communication with children,
provide children with sufficient understanding of religion, and instill good
morals.
The
school as an institutions that are believed to provide tiered education is
responsible for controlling the limits relationships between students and
conduct surveillance on the incidence of bullying in the school environment.
Schools need to establish cooperation with the police, by conducting counseling
about the dangers of bullying, and provide sanctions ranging from light. The
government should also have a clear program, clear and focused, to help the
problem of bullying. If parents and the government was silent, then it is
tantamount to tolerating or legalizing revenge tradition at the school.
Reference:
Monks,
F.J., Knoers, A.M.P., Haditono, S.R. 2004. Psikologi Perkembangan:
pengantar dalam berbagai bagiannya. Yogyakarta: Gadjah Mada University Press.
